Monthly Archives: November 2010

>This too shall pass…

>Not all days are bright and sunny, there are dull and cloudy ones too. Days when you have no energy, no hope and no enthusiasm. Days when you feel, “why does it happen to me all the time??”. What one needs to know is that one is not alone. Every individual goes through the same…

Words of advice aren’t scarce, one keeps getting them from all directions. Words of comfort, is what the heart longs for… The spoken words may not be new. Its just the feeling, that the “words understand you” and not “you understand the words”.

“Jo karna, uska naam kya?” (How does it matter by what name you call something that you have to do?)
What you can do is, smile and do it and be happy or crib and do it and be grumpy!! Something you’ve heard before, haven’t you? But these words made me feel better today!! 🙂

No matter how good or bad the time is today, “this too shall pass” (Yeh waqt bhi guzar jaayega).


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>Saying NO!!

>Ever come across a situation where you have to say No to someone for something that you can do?? I’m sure you have.. What I wanna know is how simple or difficult should it be??

I for one find it really difficult to tell No to people in certain situations, even if the person is a complete stranger. I have had many people telling me, “How difficult is it? You don’t even know the person“. Sounds simple, but I find it difficult. Well if I do manage to say No, I keep feeling guilty and keep bothering about it, like how I am now. The reason for the post – an incident that happened in the bus today.

Before I write about today’s incident, let me write about a couple of incidents more, that have happened, not very long back.

Incident 1: I have this tendency of giving money to people who come begging, for I feel bad for them. After advice from many people I have now improved and stop myself from giving money to the beggars who look young/healthy. One evening on the way home, I was waiting for my turn at the usual grocery store, when a pretty healthy looking beggar turned up. Nobody present there responded to him. I was lost in thought whether or not to give him money as he had a bandage wrapped around his elbow. Seeing that nobody responded, he approached the shopkeeper, who said that he won’t get anything for free!! The beggar took 3 Rs and handed it to the shopkeeper. I was feeling sad for him that he has so little to spend for something to eat. Before I could do anything, the beggar says “One Charms!!“. Can you believe that? :O He bought a cigarette.x-( The incident irritated and upset me so much. Is this what happens generally??

Incident 2: I along with a few friends were at the railway station waiting for the train. A beggar turns up. My friends say No, so I say No too. Within a few minutes a lady approaches me with an open palm. I say No again. As she walked away, I noticed that she had a huge bag on her head. She appeared to be clad in neat saree as well. She went and stood at a distance. As I wondered… the realization struck me that she with her open palm was pointing at the bottle of water I was holding. She was asking for water!! God!! How ashamed I felt at that moment. 😦 I then went to her, told her that I misunderstood her, apologized and gave her the bottle of water. She smiled and thanked me. 🙂

Incident 3: This is what happened today. The lady in the seat next to me, a villager, asked me what the time was. Though I can now have minimal conversation in Tamil, I don’t know how they tell the time in Tamil. So I responded saying “Tamil teriyaadu” ( I don’t know Tamil ) and asked the girl standing beside to tell the lady its 7.30. Immediately after this the lady asks me questions like, where am I going to get down? If I have a mobile phone? She said that she has to call her son and asked me to do so from my mobile. When I said No, she asked that was it because I didn’t have balance in my phone? I didn’t know what to say, I was wondering whether or not I should make a call for her sake… Thinking that my number would unnecessarily go to unknown people, I decided against it. Thankfully since I had told her that I don’t know the language all I had to do was stay silent. She stopped talking to me herself.

I have been feeling guilty since then and wondering whether I did the right thing?? How do I know if I am in a situation like Incident 1 or 2? How do I decide when to tell No to people? How do you people do it? Let me know…


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