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Blood relations

There are days and then there are days! Yesterday was one such day. I spent first half of the day shopping for my upcoming engagement 😉 (You must be thinking what a way to break the news :P) totally ignorant about how the second half of the day would turn out. Having shopped until we could carry no more bags, me and a friend got into an auto to go home. This is when I realized I had forgotten the keys to my house. Since my parents were running about making arrangements for the engagement, they were gonna return only late night and I had to stay at my friend’s place.

During the return, the friend of mine was trying to contact people with O -ve blood group. A colleague of hers needed the blood for his sister. The girl was admitted after being diagnosed with dengue. The platelets count had gone down and they needed a donor. She had a cousin and an aunt who were ready to donate. They went to the hospital, only to hear from the doctor that they need a male donor, above 60kgs. Why couldn’t they have given the same information before? 😡 It would have saved so much effort and time! The effort could have been utilized in the right direction.

When she called me and informed the same. I called up a few other friends and started searching online. I found a link to bharatbloodbank where people who are ready to donate blood register with their information. I could do a search based on State/City/Area. I looked for the nearest area to the hospital in which the girl was. I didn’t have much hope on finding someone and when the first two calls turned out to be non-existent and out-of-service numbers, my hopes went down. The third donor listed was a lady. There was just one more person left in the list.

I am generally very apprehensive about talking to strangers, giving my number at different sites etc, due to certain incidents that have happened previously. The worst one was very recent, with some guy who I assume had got hold of my number when I took a Tata Photon connection and kept calling me continuously, not even letting me make other calls. I had to download an application and block all his calls.  But this time, I didn’t hesitate making a call on some strange number. It turned out to be the right person. His name was Mr.Narendra (I think it’s totally worth mentioning :)). He didn’t think twice before agreeing to go to the hospital to make a donation. It was nearly 9 in the night and the person could have easily put his own comfort/priorities over some stranger’ s need. But hats off to him to agree instantly. I was humbled by his selflessness. Thanked him profusely and gave him the details of whom he has to meet.

We still had to wait for the tests, to see if the doctors could take his blood. Luckily, I heard from my friend at around 11 in the night that it was fine and his blood was taken. The girl has been administered with the platelets today morning and has shown improvements. I just pray that everything goes well and she recovers soon.

The only thing I have been thinking from yesterday is, it was so great of the person to agree to a stranger’s request. Such people, make you realize that there is still some humanity left in this world, which otherwise shows only it’s cruel side of selfishness, hatred, deceit and indifference to strangers. We have all been a part of it too, sometime, somewhere…



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Jaago re!

It’s madness, utter madness!

We compare ourselves to the big nations, talk about getting there, talk about how much progress we are making in technologies and urbanization. Yet, there is a lacking in the basic civic sense in human beings. We are all aware as to how some people live totally oblivious to the fact that their surroundings aren’t clean or that they are spitting on the same roads that they would be walking on. No matter how much the Government does wrt such issues, unless the people themselves feel the need, I don’t think anything will change.

The Government of Karnataka and TamilNadu (I speak for these states only, as I have lived there) have hired professional painters and got the walls along so many streets painted with beautiful paintings depicting the state’s customs, art and other cultural facets. All this done because there are people who go around sticking bills/posters on every free wall, there are people who care a damn and pee on every other wall. This was done to prevent them.

Two incidents today left me enraged! Both related to the crowd in the major bus stands. There’s a huge rush during the peak hours at bus stands, esp for the buses going towards IT Parks, situated in different parts of the city. I try and start early to beat the heat and avoid the crowd. Today, I was late by 15 min. The crowd on my platform was high. I missed about four buses waiting for the crowd to reduce. But people just kept coming and coming. Finally, when I decided to get on a bus, there was a mad rush at the door with people shoving and pushing each other. I was feeling helpless just wanting to get out of it. Then, someone pinched my backside. Bloody hell! Being a woman, I’ve seen many such situations. It’s not the first time when some stranger misbehaved with me. Generally it’s some for of eve-teasing, trying to come close in a crowded bus, trying touch when in a crowd. But this was outrageous!

I turned around and instantly recognized the jerk from his expression and body language. I punched him once on his arm and before I could blast him or give him a few more punches, he started making his way out of the crowd and ran. I followed him, but he escaped. If I had caught hold of him, I would have gotten him beaten black and blue.

The thing of utmost disgust was that he was a professional, probably on his way to office, with a neat laptop backpack on him. It’s a shame on such people and their behavior. Not for a second do they stop and think about the girl. Wouldn’t the same sort of things be happening to their sisters/mother. If their family is of concern to them, aren’t other girls also a part of some family. I am totally disgusted and tired of people behaving in such a manner with women. Instead of handling such situations, political leaders comment about the dressing sense of women. Harayana women and child development department recently declared that jeans and t-shirt is an indecent form of clothing for their women employees. What such people need to realize is that, a salwar-kameez or jeans-tshirt is not a criteria for such misbehaving people, they will continue to do the same.

The evening crowd was equally maddening, with the people not even letting the others on the bus alight. They were pushing their way amidst that. I was pushed to the edge of the bus door and nearly crushed. I was left with a red mark and pain for quite a while on my arm. I would say, the queue system has never been followed or respected in our country. People don’t realize that being organized will get the things done faster and better. The Govt. has provided numerous buses for the busy routes. The buses are of great quality and scheduled at regular frequency. Yet, the rush for the seats and the unruly behavior doesn’t stop. If you are a person, who thinks about the system and rules and how to behave, all that happens to you, is that you get crushed. Nobody would even bother about it. Saddening, but true..

Really, will India ever be developed, in the true sense? 😦


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Rail Gaadi

I had written this post few days back when I was traveling in the train. Forgot to post it though!

As I sit in the local train on the way to the central station, I realize that it has been two years here, with the constant to and fro between the two cities. Catching the 8.30 or 9 pm local train after office and reaching the Central station, to catch the late night train home. But what I also realize is that I’ve never written a post on my train travel experiences.

The fact of having local trains to commute and having beaches to visit are the few things that I looked forward to when I first came to this city. I envied cities like Chennai and Mumbai for having local trains. 😐 It makes life so easier than the crowded buses. My happiness knew no bounds when the Metro was launched in Bangalore. I am eagerly waiting for the other lines of Metro to be completed. Doesn’t seem like it’s gonna happen anytime soon. 😦

Come to think of it, in these two years I never took the local train to office on a daily basis, thanks to the office being close and the station being far. But in whatever minimal travel I have done, I have had some good experiences. The first day here at Chennai was the day I returned by the last train home. 😉 It was around 11.15 or so. After dropping my parents at station where they took a train back home, I went on to meet my roommates who were shopping. Being typical girls they shopped till late night, by the time we finished dinner it was time for the last train! I was a little scared, for it was just the first day. But, that was the only time we ever took it. 🙂

Traveling for nearly 2 hrs every single time to the city, just to a watch movie in the weekend! Phew! Traveling in an almost empty train at 4.30 on a Monday morning, when I’ve come from Bangalore, just wanting to rush home and catch some sleep before I head to office. Traveling in a jam packed train where you are scared that you’ll miss getting down at your station, due to the crowd at the door. Experienced all varieties.

What’s more varied are the kind of people you see or meet. The bunch of young software engineers who have come from different parts of the country to work here, all headed home on a Friday evening. The group of college/school going girls giggling and chattering away. The newly married couple, with lady wearing shining new jewelry. Mothers trying to control their mischievous children. The vendors who get into the compartments to sell their fruits, vegetables and greens.  All in a hurry to get their work done and go home, tired from the heat and humidity.

The familiar dimming of lights before the two main stations reminds me of a funny comment that a friend made. The comment was, “the dimming of lights rightly indicate the station ahead to the people only when travelling in one direction. In the other direction it’s like telling the people, haha! You missed it..” 😉

The struggle to get tickets in tatkal and the huge crowds in the trains and stations always leaves me wondering and asking “where are all these people going?” All in all, it has been fun and it’s one of things I am definitely gonna miss when I move back to Bangalore.


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