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The last weekend was so much fun! With friends having come down from Pune, we roamed around and watched two movies on consecutive days. 🙂
On Saturday, we went to Bol Bachchan. OMG! I found it a b-o-r-e. It was a big screen Comedy Circus. The movie was filled with people from the show. The comedians, Krishna, VIP (thankfully Saloni ko nahi liya), the judge Archana Puran Singh, yahan tak ki jokes bhi!! Abominable! I felt that Rohit Shetty got out of the judge’s seat, took everyone around and made a movie. Probably the only person who was paid for the movie was Abhishek Bachchan. Ajay Devgan produced it himself and the heroines had miniature roles. 🙂 At the beginning of the movie Amitabh Bachchan says “movie mein hum hai nahi, sirf humara naam hi hai”. By the end of the movie I felt, “thank god! aap nahi the”. Ajay Devgan, I guess is having difficulty getting out of the Singham mode. 😀 Probably the only other movie which I had found worse than this was Houseful. I had slept off in the theatre, when watching that. 😀 Overall, if you are a person who enjoys the jokes on comedy circus, you might enjoy the movie. Some of the dialogues with Ajay Devgan’s English translation was funny. Prachi Desai looked pretty as ever! I am not too fond of Asin, so no comments on her. 😛
Sunday, we watched Cocktail. It was a fun movie. One time watch. In my opinion, the new girl Diana is pretty and good at acting too.. Saif was his usual self. In fact I laughed much more on the jokes in this movie than the former. But his age has started to show. Gone are the days of DCH. 😦 Deepika looks amazing! Wish she could act equally good. 😛 A typical, modern day love triangle, fun to watch if you go with friends. The name of Saif’s character in the movie is Gautam. There was this huge group who had come to watch the movie and were sitting in a row in front of us. There was a guy by the same name in their group. The entire time, the others in the group kept pulling his leg and bursting out into loud laughter at the jokes. 😀 Great fun!
But, come to think of it, none of the movies nowadays are heart touching. They don’t leave an impression on you. It’s just become entertainment for a couple of hours. There used to be movies which moved us.Anand was one such movie for me. I have always liked Rajesh Khanna and loved many of his movies. Like they say, all good things have to come to an end. 😦 May his soul Rest In Peace.
Talking of movies, I saw Letters to Juliet, once again. 🙂 I love this movie! It’s amazingly romantic. Leaving you with a hope and dream. If you haven’t watched it yet, then please do!
I try not to be too feminist in my opinions. I always try and think from the men’s point of view too. When I have friends arguing, with girls telling about how totally selfish men are and guys pointing at how money minded women are, I always try and speak objectively giving both of them examples of how the other one could be wrong too. But when things keep continuously going wrong in the life of close friends, one loses faith and one feels like flushing all the positive opinions down the drain.
Marriage is probably one of the institutions whose sanctity has been maintained over the years. Though there’s a lot of change in the trend, people still have faith in it in our country. The least a girl expects from a partner is to for him to understand and support her. An emotional support. Though the general opinion is the girls choose money over other things, I strongly believe and know that what girls look for is care. Girls are brought up in a more gentle manner and generally showered with a lot of love from their father, which is why they have similar expectations from their guy.
The guys on the other hand I feel are a lot less emotional (sometimes too hurtingly practical). Crying seems dramatic to them. They subdue their emotions. Some smoke, some drink and some get angered. Their ways to vent out the emotions I guess! Isn’t crying a lot less dangerous?? 🙂
I am bogged by all these thoughts because two close friends of mine, both girls, are facing different kinds of issues, even before their marriage. Well, one’s arranged and one’s a love cum arranged marriage (just as a clarification before you think on the love-arranged marriage theory, if you believe in it). The arranged marriage couple got ample time before the wedding to get to know each other. I think that was a great opportunity for them. But the guy acts all weird. He gets all worked up on her expectations, even the tiniest of them. But he wants her to behave in a certain manner that he expects. He’s loud mouthed and doesn’t bother about being in a public place too, when raising his voice. Due to all the contradictions that they have, they kept fighting and the matter came to the parents. Now it stands at a point where the parents say it’s too late and that the cards are printed and the couple trying to put up with each other.
The love marriage couple on the other hand know each other from 5 years. Yet, the guy blames the girl for the wedding getting arranged so early and not at the year end. The financial aspect of his concern is valid, but blaming the girl isn’t. The girl’s 26 and was facing a lot of parental pressure alongwith the family problems. She withstood all that for two years so that the guy gets enough time. Isn’t it his responsibility to take things in his stride and try not to make things more difficult for the girl, if he can’t make it any easier. After all this, he doesn’t want the girl to shift to the city where he is after marriage. He wants her to continue to stay in her current city till the end of this year. This he says gives him more time to earn enough money to take up/set up a rented house. Personally, I believe home is where the heart is, if they have each other I feel they could manage for a while with the basic necessities and gradually set up the house in a better manner.
Both these cases the girls are now unhappy, when all they expected was care, a few loving words and the partner’s companionship. If such are the ways of the world, the already scared me is getting more apprehensive about the guy I would meet. I sincerely wish, that women become more stronger and the men more emotional. Too much to wish for, is it?? 🙂
For those of you who’ve watched F.R.I.E.N.D.S, you might remember “TOW with the Apothecary Table” episode, where Ross comments about Phoebe liking her things to be one of a kind by saying “You know what’s not one of a kind, a Twin!”.
I totally disagree. Twins being born is so unique (if you know what I mean). It’s two of a kind I know, but twins being born itself is one of a kind amongst the usual. When my sister was carrying, I used to keep telling her, if it were to be twins it would be so exciting. She would retort back saying “Yeah right! Handling and bringing up one kid is difficult enough.” Whenever me and she did or thought something similar, which would be a lot of times, we would call each other “two twin papaas” born five and a half years apart. 😀
It’s so fascinating. It’s not that I don’t know the biology behind it, I do. I find it fascinating in spite of that. 🙂 The fact that they are very attached to each other. The things I have heard, that if one cries, so does the other. If one falls sick, so does the other. 😦 How they are inseparable etc, everything is fascinating. We had twins in our class too. The guys looked so alike and many people couldn’t tell them apart. They were really close to each other. Heard that they almost cried when they had to join different companies as they had studied together all along too.
The Raghu-Rajiv twist in MTV Roadies was cool surprise and added a new dimension to the show I would say. Also did you know that the baby you saw in the movie Baby’s Day Out was not one but two. 😀 They were twins too. They were alternately worked with as when one was tired. 🙂 Amazing isn’t it?
Why I am yapping away about twins? That’s because a friend of mine from work delivered twins three days back, a boy and a girl! 😀 I am just super-excited and waiting to go see them sometime soon. Also I had been planning to crochet blankets for them, but didn’t have the right yarn. When ordering the yarn also I was wondering what color to choose. What if I choose pink and both were boys or what if I choose blue and both were girls, so I chose colors according to what might look good. I’m yet to lay my hands on them. Then, I’ll be crocheting away. 🙂 Anyway now it being one boy and one girl, it’s perfect. I hope the babies find the blanket soft and warm. 🙂
I crib a lot. All the time. Sort of the kind who finds happiness in being unhappy. 😉 I gotta do something about it. Decided to put down here, the things which according to me are blessings in disguise. 🙂
– The first spell of rain after the scorching summer.
– A tree filled with the brightest of flowers.
– Baby talk and laughter. 😀
– One glass of cool water after a tiring day.
– The friend calling you at the right time, when you are feeling low.
– The dripping ice-cream you are licking away. 😛
– The concern in mom’s voice.
– Puppy’s lick.
Don’t just the thought of these things bring a smile on your face? So if they aren’t blessings what are they? Don’t you agree?
Something happens and you make up your mind that you will not do that again. A bit of you changes. Something happens in the life of someone close to you, you learn from that and make up your mind about not being a certain way. Someone cheats you and you make up your mind not trust anyone easily again. Someone blames you or finds fault in everything you do, you make up your mind to give so much to the things that you do that nobody ever gets a chance to blame you again. Every thing that happens, changes something within you. What I am saying is that what we are, is may be because of whatever has happened in our life.
People who don’t know me think I am a strong person, who knows what she does and won’t break down easily. Speaks to the point and what is required. People who do know me, know that I am an extremely emotional person and the slightest of words or things hurt me and make me cry. If you’ve seen me cry, then maybe you are one of the persons close to me. I am very hot headed and when upset or angry can’t think clearly. So I either start crying or arguing (Well, the end result of arguing also ends up with me crying).
I worry a lot. About the most frivolous things too. I think about all the possible negative scenarios. 😦 I came to be this way because back in my childhood days, I observed that when I was positive and hopeful about something, it never happened. This slowly made me think negatively and then when I got what I wanted I would be so happy. This made me think that I would jinx things, if I thought it would go great. I say touchwood for a million things!
But this emotional nature is affecting my work life. The slightest of issues cropping up in the things that I worked hard on makes me worry and bother. The manager is a total pain who doesn’t understand, so communication is a big issue. A lot of work seems to go unappreciated. Slightest of rude words or taunts or jokes from friends or colleagues, hurt me and makes me wanna cry.
A close friend fought with me for this nature of mine and told that this is not how I should work. I should not limit myself. I gotta stop thinking that things won’t work, that I will get blamed and everything will get messed up, what will people think etc. I was told by the friend, outright in the face that I should be able to accept criticism and that it doesn’t necessarily mean the other person is right. I gotta to stick to facts and need not worry about others as long as I know that I am right. No matter how many arguments we had, it ends up with me wanting to cry. I am finding it hard to even to imagine trying to change myself now. It seems like an impossible thing. What do you have to say? How easy would it be for you?
Get a feeling of having lost myself, somewhere. Can only think of the following lines, which seem so apt –
Ae waqt ruk ja, tham ja teher ja, wapas zara daud peeche.
Main chhod aayi khud ko jahan pe, woh reh gaya mod peeche….
P.S: ‘whoami’ is a command in Unix which identifies the logged in user. 😉 Yeah I know, I’m a gone case!! 🙂
These dot separated letters remind us of just one thing, a popular sitcom on television. I guess most of us who have watched it have loved it. Each of its character is so varied and so special. Observe their characters closely and you can relate to them. You will see that you have friends who have some or all of the characteristics as those of the on-screen characters. What made me write this post, is a recent conversation I was having with a friend, who says, I behave like one of the characters of the sitcom. I won’t tell you which one. 😉
The characters, in the order of whom I like the most to whom I like a little less (there are none that I dislike :)) –
Joey – The handsomest and the most fun character of the group. One who loves food and doesn’t like sharing it. 😀 Falls in love with every other girl and doesn’t care. Yet, he loves the duck, chick and his friends and cries when they leave. 🙂
Phoebe – The amazing one. Talks straight from the heart, never lies and goes out of her way to do things that make others happy. Her car driving and music skills need a special mention. 😀
Chandler – The wittiest. The one who can joke in the gravest situations. Sarcastic humor is his forte. Dislikes his job, but continues to do it for the sake of money.
Monica – The loud one. Boisterous and the one to have it her own way. The chef cum host of the group, who is obsessive about cleaning. Touchy about having been fat in her childhood. 🙂
Ross – The geek. He can’t stop when he starts talking about his research and work. The responsible one, who thinks before he does something. Loves his kid.
Rachel – The beautiful one, whom everybody falls for. She’s the rich, spoilt girl who learns it the hard way to live simple. When learnt, can’t live without her friends.
Look around and you’ll find friends around you who are like the above mentioned. Some rich, some poor. Some beautiful, some average. Some who can crack up jokes anytime, anywhere and some who are serious and responsible. Some innocent, some straightforward. Some control freaks and some who just follow others. Variety is the spice of life.
Friends are extended family, with whom you laugh hard till you cry and at times cry till you feel sore. They are there to help in times of need and to laugh at you when you do something dumb. The whole point is that they are there. 🙂
I had written about how lonely I was in the old team at office here. The new team is fun!! I guess it’s because there are more members of my age group. We work, we chat, we tease each other and we fight over Chennai Super Kings and Royal Challengers Bangalore. It’s been about four months and I can say the time has been good.
Now we are at the end of a release. Generally the team celebrates a release by going for a team outing or team lunch. Also a couple of times previously they had ordered similar t-shirts for the whole team. This is the plan for the current release as well. All the previous releases and the current one of our product is named after various breeds of horses. Now you may think how many releases can they name after horses? But I was shocked. Just go check this out!!
Now that I have written about everything except what I wanted to write, let me get back on track. We crazy bunch of teammates started a group chat in the afternoon about what caption should we have on the t-shirt. We laughed our heads off, with the things we came up with. Ended up with the manager and the ODC members staring at us. I thought I’ll share it with you guys and lighten your mood (will be best enjoyed by people in the software industry).
The previous t-shirt read “Stallion – Racing Ahead”. This release is called “Mustang”. This is what we came up with –
- Tired after the race
- We build it!! You break it!!
- Errors Redefined
- Wait till the next release
- Bugs extinct* *Conditions Apply
- We build it!! You break it!! We repair it!!
- Error In Code!!
- We Deliver Bugs!
- It’s not a car! It’s not a horse! It’s an EMS!
- License Expired!
- E Mustang S
After all the awesome ideas, we had to put an end to the craziness and think seriously and we couldn’t come up with even a single idea. Arrgh!! Why do we have managers?? 😦 It would be so much to fun to have some funny caption. But I guess we’ll have to end up with some sober stuff.
>I know… It been too long since I last posted. I’ve been too lazy and procrastinating all the time, when I had such wonderful things to post about..
Let’s call this a come back post and I’ll try to keep my blog alive from now onwards. 🙂
What’s been happening at my end is –
* Yay!!! I’m an aunt.. My sis was blessed with a baby boy, two months back. 🙂 🙂 Everyone’s having a great time with tiny one back at home and all I get, is to see him once in two weeks when I go to b’lore… hmmph!!!
* The baby is about to be named in a few days!! 😀
* Got used to chennai.. getting back to the house here after a long day at office feels nice too..
* I have definitely become more adjustable and responsible and quite good at all the housework too.. 😉
* Feel lonely at times and miss home terribly. Get upset when I feel that they don’t miss me equally 😦
* Have been struck at home doing washing clothes and stuff like that, at many weekends coz its too hot and the places are too far to go roaming..
* Miss hopping over to CCD with friends whenever I feel like. Also going for long walks whenever I felt like…
* Started liking the work at office.. A new zeal to learn things.. 🙂
* Hardly able to talk to all my old friends, and they keep complaining about it 😦
* Made a group of friends here and a few of them already left.. 😦 Took transfers and were posted elsewhere.. Missing them too…
That’s about a short update from my end.. What’s up with you??
>Its so true, that the things which bring you great happiness come free of cost.. 🙂 Like… someone’s nice words about you, knowing that people are gonna miss you when you are not around, knowing that your presence makes a difference to a few. I have felt all this in the past week and it feels awesome… 🙂
One of the most unexpected and overwhelming incident in the past week was my Prof. calling for a meeting on the day I quit and it intending to be an informal send-off for me. 🙂 I shall never forget the words he spoke for me and about me. Though he comes across as the strict professor at times, he has a heart of gold, which he has proved at many instances. His words, which wished me luck, told me that my contribution in the work had mattered and let me know that I shall be missed, will always remain in my memory. 🙂 It made me feel so special.. 🙂 He even said that they’ll miss me as much as my parents would when they would get me married and send me off.. 😀
I am grateful to be having friends to whom I matter. Seeing a couple of friends crying that I shall be going away made me sad and happy. Sad that I shall not be able to meet them often and happy to have such friends. (Hey guys… you never know…, what if I’m back in a couple of months to eat your head again… So don’t cry… 🙂)
It felt great to have my sister come over and stay at home over the weekend. It had been months or probably an year since she last stayed over. If not for her I would have done none of the packing. She has so neatly packed so many things that I’m now scared that I’ll need 2 more bags when I’m coming back coz I can’t pack as neatly as her.. 🙂 Wish she had stayed for a few more days. I just hope that I’m here when its time for my niece/nephew to come. I want to see her/him on the first day itself.. Just can’t wait for it… 🙂
One of the things that’s making me sad is the thought that I can’t probably blog when I’m away. That’s coz I don’t have a laptop nor do I think I shall get a chance to access the internet at the workplace. I’m not sure yet, but that’s how it is generally… 😦 Never mind.. I’m gonna post all the stuff on my mind when I come to Bangalore during the weekends.. 🙂 Something’s better than nothing… 🙂 What say??